Kids need our guidance and inspiration. We need to show them the direction that leads to greatness not mediocrity.
As a parent, it’s our duty to provide the best possible resources and circumstances to our kids so they can thrive. Most parents wish their kids best possible future, we give them the best education and hope they go to the best possible colleges so they can get the best Job. When it comes to our kids, we wish the best for them, but the real question is, do we?
I agree with everything mentioned above but I don’t agree with giving kids the best education so they can get the “best job”. I would rather raise my kids to be an employer. Not an employee. Why don't we raise our kids as leaders, as someone who can change the world? Why do we underestimate our kids so much? And no, it doesn’t matter how rich and resourceful you are, it frankly doesn’t even matter how brilliant of a student your kid is. “Give your kids the strength and Confidence, so they can live like a Lion not like a Sheep." In the book Millionaire minds, the author interviewed 30 thousand millionaires and concluded that your grades in schools have nothing to do with your economic success in future but it does increase your chances. The two characteristics that were common in these successful people were their leadership and problem solving skills. Every kid is different, not everyone can go to IVY league schools, but anyone can become a leader. I don’t want my kid to be just a cog in the wheel, I want my kids to invent their own wheel. We tend to underestimate our kids, most kids are incredibly talented and gifted but we as parents never bother to find the gift our kid has been blessed with. We assume that the real success is getting into few careers like Medicine, Law, and Finance where there’s plenty of money. Without knowing the real talent our kid has, we from very young age start forcing them towards one corner which we believe is right for the kid. If the child really has a passion for the above mentioned fields, then those are the kids who do so well as a doctor, lawyer or as a wealth manager. I strongly support the idea of sending your kids to those fields or any respectable field if they have the passion to do something big in that field.
Don’t put them in the box very early in their life without finding their gift and don’t teach them the meaning of success is only tied to the economic success. The real success is becoming the best human being who live up to their maximum potential.
With our defensive and narrow minded approach for our kid’s future, our kids are discouraged to have big dreams. They develop this limited belief that they cannot take the risk of pursuing their own dreams. Remember, if your kids don’t have their own dreams, they will be working all their lives to fulfill their employer’s dream. Guide them, raise them as a leader, give them confidence, celebrate their little success, let them have their own dreams.
Please send them to STEM programs or other kind of program which help your kids do some innovation and promote out of box thinking. If you don’t have that available, use YouTube and find some online free courses for innovation and critical thinking, Promote culture of reading books about positive thinking and motivation.
Do not just raise them as an average human being who look for a safe and secured job, and most importantly, allow them to fail, let them feel some pain and challenges in life, don’t just hold their hands all the time: teach them how to respond when they face the failure and pain in life.
All these pain, obstacles and challenges help your kids build the character they need to be successful in real life. Let them dream big and take some risks in life. No one learns walking or biking without falling.
The kids who have never fallen, never experienced pain, never failed and always had someone to hold their hands, are the first one who break down and fall apart when they face defeat and failure in their real life as a grown up. When you do something big and worth while in life, failure is inevitable. Before they enter into this difficult and mean world, prepare them to lead and hunt, not be hunted.
"Leaders aren't born
they're made.
And they are made
just like anything else,
through hard work.
And that's the price
we'll have to pay to achieve
that goal or any goal."
- Vince Lombardi
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